Virginity of the Bride

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Our era is a highly sexualized one. Young people are encouraged to engage in fornication early on in life, and the encouragement to engage in sex in various ways continues through their lives. If one reaches their mid-teens and is still a virgin, one is considered suppressed or frigid, not only by peers but by society in general. The loose, if not nonexistent, morals of today’s Western society has led to a generation rife with sexually transmitted disease, illegitimate births, and steady traffic through infanticide facilities. Sex, rather than a beautiful, holy thing created for specific purpose, has become a sport to be engaged in by anyone with anyone. The very concept of abstinence and self-control is considered little more than a punchline.

As a result, few women who do get married are virgins, and most of them have lost their virginity multiple partners prior to the one whom they marry. In 21st century Western culture, this is not only common, but considered normal. A woman who has only experienced sex with her husband is regarded as a freak. Not long ago, virginity was considered a sacred thing not given away, carefully guarded until marriage. Now it is a sort of stigma which young people are taught to shake off as quickly as possible.

A quote attributed to the French Enlightenment philosopher Voltaire says, “It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge.” How interesting it is that this quote by a father of humanism should echo of the serpent’s words to Eve regarding the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil: “For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.” (Genesis 3:5) In our desire to be gods equal to if not superior to Yahweh God, we overturn His will for our lives and conduct in the name of “enlightenment” and “progress”. In doing so we abuse or abandon our intended function and harm society at large. We write our own rules based on our own fleshly desires. Sin becomes advantageous, and virtue becomes a hindrance to human development.

Biblically, a father is expected to ensure and be able to guarantee that his daughter is a virgin when she is married to a husband. Otherwise, she is considered damaged. Scripture even goes so far as to say that a man who has sex with a woman without marrying her is defrauding his brother – presumably defrauding the future husband of a pure woman (I Thessalonians 4:3-8). If a man were to seduce an unbetrothed virgin, the Law requires him to pay the girl’s father the bride price of a virgin, whether the father allows him to marry her or not (Exodus 22:16-17). This law would deter the sin of fornication as well as compensate a future husband for what constituted theft of the girl’s virginity, as well as provide her support in the likely event that no man would desire to marry her in the future due to her damaged state. If a previously unmarried woman were discovered on her wedding day to not be a virgin, the sentence was death by stoning because she had “played the harlot in her father’s house” (Deuteronomy 22:21).

When Amnon raped his sister Tamar, she begged him not to, “…for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly.  And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel.” (II Samuel 13:12-13) Once he had raped her, he then decided to throw her out. Tamar protested, “This evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me!” (II Samuel 13:16) Not only had he forced the evil of incest on her, but once he had defiled her he wanted to cast her out, bringing to public light the shame he’d brought on her and on the entire family. Tamar knew she had been “humbled” (Deuteronomy 22:29), or, as the Hebrew word may also be translated, “abased”. Her purity had been destroyed, not only through the defilement of rape but also through the crime of incest. Tamar was devastated, her entire life ruined.

To commit sexual immorality is to sin, not only against God, but against one’s own body (I Corinthians 6:18-20). Our bodies have been given to us by God to keep and tend just as has anything else over which He has placed us in charge. Our bodies were never designed for sexual activity outside marriage. Extramarital sex and other sexual sins are outright abuses of ourselves and the people with whom we commit them. Not only does it greatly increase the chances of venereal disease and even various cancers, but it has also been proven to be psychologically harmful. Promiscuity can damage one’s ability to form committed relationships and lead to depression. The human body and mind were designed exclusively for marital sex, and to use it for anything else is to misuse that over which God has made us stewards. Using a precious possession as sport equipment is hardly responsible activity. If sexual purity is holiness (I Thessalonians 4:3), then promiscuity is corruption and sacrilege (I Corinthians 6:19).

Sex was designed for continuation of a man’s line. When a woman married as a virgin, there was no doubt as to whose line she was propagating. A woman who had previously had relations with a man was considered used goods, and thus less valuable. Virginity was also an indication of her integrity, making her more desirable as a wife and companion. If she was to help run a household, there needed to be some indication that she had the moral compass to do it well. Virginity also reflected on her father. If he was unable to keep his daughter under control and train her to keep herself pure, then his character as a leader of the household was tarnished. To present his daughter as a virgin was to indicate that this woman had learned righteousness and submission, qualities she could carry on into her marriage.

The war to overturn God’s authoritative system is closely aligned with the movement to “liberate” sexuality and make promiscuity normal. Sexual looseness indicates anarchy, wherein nobody is answerable to anyone but themselves. Those who promote perversion are saboteurs and insurrectionists. The more relative morality becomes, the more people drift away from any form of true authority. In a society in which sexuality is kept strictly between husband and wife, the authority of fathers and husbands remains intact, in turn recognizing the authority of the one true Lawgiver. Virginity is a mark of submission – submission to God and to fathers. Promiscuity is rebellion against all form of rule, and thus it is that when a civilization embraces sexual perversion, it invariably falls shortly afterward. The rise in illegitimate births is a cancer to America that is slowly choking the life out of the nation. The Supreme Court ruling allowing sodomites to “marry” in all 50 states was the death knell.

Sex is either a lynchpin or a wrecking ball to society. It is a direct reflection on the overall morality of the people. When people are chaste and righteous, society flourishes and is strong, and their morality is taught to the succeeding generations to continue that strength (Proverbs 14:34). In the opposite situation, there are no laws with which to hold the nation together. With each new wave of young people the society falls apart with increasing speed as they stumble through life cavalierly discharging this powerful weapon called “sex” – a weapon that, when handled right, can build a strong nation, but when wielded without guidance, can smash a civilization to pieces.

The root issue is loss of morals, a bursting asunder of God bands as the nations rise up in rebellion against Him and His anointed. It is no accident that the phrase used to identify this uptick in perversion is called the “sexual revolution”. It is indeed a revolt against the King of kings. Proper application of the sexual function is a huge part of the bedrock for a secure and thriving nation under the all-wise rule of God – if that is taken away, everything else comes down in a smoking heap.

Drifting around the internet is a vintage-poster-satansgirlstyle graphic that dramatically illustrates the rebellion against God and His true authority that characterizes promiscuity. It depicts a young woman in a seductive pose, wearing a skimpy chemise, under the heading, “Birth Control Babe”. In various locations around her are phrases such as, “Votes Democrat”, “Free Thinker”, “Soooo Hot!”, “Fast and Sexy”, and “Conservatives Lick My Heel!” But the most telling is, “I don’t follow no square man’s rule, get it!” Not only does it glorify harlotry, but it makes clear that the entire practice is rebellion against both YHWH and the rule of father and husband. Unbridled sexual indulgence is an anarchistic upending of YHWH’s intended system, and promoters of the practice know it.

Those who advocate sexual immorality never once try to pass it off as a virtue. After all, virtue is a restraint, a band that they want to burst asunder. No, they promote it as a “freedom” and a “right”. [5] “Freedom”, of course, meaning license to do whatever they want without such bothersome obstacles as law and morals, and “right” meaning power. As was aptly stated by the greatest promoters of immorality, “The word ‘right’ is an abstract thought and proved by nothing. The word means no more than this: – give me what I want in order that thereby I may have a proof that I am stronger than you.” [6] To claim the “right” to promiscuity is to claim preeminence over Him who forbids it. The entire struggle between morality and immorality is a struggle for rule – on one side the forces seeking to bind humanity together, and on the other the forces seeking to destroy it. Those demanding sexual “freedom” are not concerned with what is right and good, but rather with what they want, regardless of the consequences. They clamor for liberty, but in actuality seek license, an open door to personal and national ruin.

Fathers who teach their children self-control and ensure that their daughters remain virgins are doing a great deed because they are fighting against the deliberate destruction of society. It is on them and on their children that future generations can build a new world when the one surrounding them with sin collapses. They are the first courses of stone for a Kingdom that will stand strong and glorious while the miserable remnants of the old sprawl at its feet.

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[5] Humanist Manifesto II: “… We reject all religious, ideological, or moral codes that denigrate the individual, suppress freedom, dull intellect, dehumanize personality . . . In the area of sexuality, we believe that intolerant attitudes, often cultivated by orthodox religions and puritanical cultures, unduly repress sexual conduct. The right to birth control, abortion, and divorce should be recognized … neither do we wish to prohibit, by law or social sanction, sexual behavior between consenting adults.” (Italics mine)

[6] Protocols of the Learned Elders of Zion. The Protocols’ authenticity is a subject of debate, but their consistency with the Talmud and the fact that everything laid out within them is coming about with shocking accuracy lends them extraordinary credence.